Tuesday, May 8, 2012

Mom Knows Best


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It's no secret around my family that my mom and I are close.  She is, by far, my best friend.  I call her everyday and not because I have to but because I want to.  I want to talk to her. I want to get her advice.  The thing she's pretty good at is knowing when to actually give advice and when to just listen. But you can bet that when she does bestow her wisdom it's pretty darn good. 

Going back to childhood, she's been teaching me and forming me into the person I am today.  Amongst all the pearls of wisdom, there are some that have definitely stuck with me.  Here's a run down of my favorites:

1. Take an Advil - As teens we had the tendency to whine about an aliment or a sore muscle.  She always seemed to know when we really medical attention and when we didn't.  She knew that in most cases, we just needed to toughen up a little.  Here's how those conversations would go...

Me: Mom, my pinky hurts
Mom: Is it broken?
Me: No
Mom: Is it different colors?
Me: No
Mom: Take an advil
And it worked.  It got the point across (and no, we weren't taking advil all the time.  We didn't need it).  :) 

2. Your knees are your best friends they should never part - Ok, truth be told, this was my Nana's advice but my mom was the enforcer most of the time.  :)  This one requires a back story.

I am a tom-boy through and through.  Always have been.  So much so that  my mom thought it would be a "good idea" for me to attend an etiquette school as a young girl to try to teach me how to be a lady.  HA!  I kicked and screamed all the way there.  Classes required you to wear a dress and pantie hose and were usually held right after softball practices so you can imagine the hot mess I went in there as.  Anyway, the advice that mom was trying to instill in me is that just because you are a jock doesn't mean you have to act like one. 

Today, I think I can be both a lady and a jock.  I can attend black tie balls and feel comfortable knowing what is appropriate.  I can also then, head to the track, court or ball diamond and know how to act there.  That versatility is so important in becoming a well rounded lady and I thank her NOW for instilling that in me (not so much at the time).

Ok, all kidding aside, the one piece of advice that I think has been the most valuable for me is the last one:

3. You are responsible for your own actions.  Own them - I won't lie, when I was in second grade, I tried to cheat on a spelling test.  I didn't know how to spell the word "welcome".  Turns out I wasn't very good at cheating because I got caught.  When I got home, I knew I was in for some serious punishment.  The conversation that ensued resonated and has stuck:

Mom: So, I think you have something to tell me.
Me: What?
Mom: Oh, I don't know something about a spelling test
Me: (Swallowing the lump in my throat), Oh yeah, that.
Mom: Why did you do it?
Me: I didn't. The paper just happened to be in my desk.
Mom: You don't expect me to believe that do you?
Me: But...but...
Mom: Katie, you have to learn that you are responsible for your actions.  No one made you cheat.  You did it all on your own.
Me: (crying and about to vomit)
Mom: I want you think about it and then you can tell your dad when he gets home.
Me: (vomiting...not really but I wanted to) ok

At the time, I couldn't see past the fear of having to tell my dad.  The next day and for all the days after that, I saw it.  As a mom, I think that is by far, one of the most important lessons that I can teach E.   

Mom and I continue to have conversations.  She continues to help me navigate the waters of adulthood and motherhood.  I know there will be more gems that come from our conversations and I will be truly grateful that she's shared them with me. 

I'm a lucky daughter to have such an amazing mom.  I love you!!

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11 comments:

  1. What a sweet post!

    The one about the knees made me chuckle. :)

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  2. So so so sweet. My mom did as I'm striving to do with my girl. She quietly led by example.

    MizFit

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    1. Thanks! Isn't it amazing the things moms can do! It makes you realize just how much of an impression we're making on our kids. I better straighten up. :)

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  3. I LOVE this post! It almost sounds exactly how I was raised.

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    1. That's cool! Looks like our moms raised strong women! I'm sure they are both very proud!

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  4. Hi-found you from my MBC discussion. I'm following!
    These are so cute-Great to be a mom this weekend!

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  5. What a great post about moms and advice. I hope I can be as great a mom as my own someday!

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  6. Sound like a smart woman!! good for you for having such a wonderful role model...
    I am your newest follower..pls follow back if you can.

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