I don't even know where to start in recapping this weekend. It was busy to say the least. We spent our Saturday hanging out with family. Before we met up with them, we had a chance to get a run in. We got all bundled up and headed out. I'm so thankful E loves the stroller still.
I also got some supplies to work on one of the MANY Pinterest projects I've been wanting to do. I got to do one of those Rag Wreaths. Here's the inspiration:
I bought 1 yard of 5 different fabrics (3 pattern and 2 solid color). I cut them into 1 x 5 in strips and just started tying knots onto a 12 in metal frame. I only tied to 3 of the four wires on the frame. All said, the project costs about $25 but was definitely a lot of fun to make. I think it looks great on our black door.
On Sunday, E and I met with some fellow bloggers that I've been dying to meet. I took my camera and was hoping to get some great photos of a great afternoon but all of a sudden the toddler tantrums reared their ugly head and we were forced to end our afternoon early. I did get to meet them and I really wish I had more time.
Michelle over at: http://confessionsofarecipejunkie.com/
Madeline over at: http://www.foodfitnessandfamilyblog.com/
Kristen over at: http://theconcreterunner.com/
I'm in dire need of some help here. E is 16 months old and I swear he's 2. His tantrums are terrible and I'm not sure how to get him to stop. He refuses to listen to me. He wants to do what he wants when he wants. If that means standing in his high chair at a restaurant so be it. I try to tell him no, to sit but it doesn't work. I end up pulling him out of the restaurant where I try to reason with him. Yeah, not a good approach. Does anyone have any recommendations? Any books I can read? I'm getting really frustrated. I can't do anything without feeling anxious about the tantrum that is most likely about to happen.
Does anyone do time out at this age? How do you do it? We try to do something where I just hold him until he settles down but I have to admit his desire to persevere is strong.
I have had time out recommended to me at this age, but haven't figured it out yet, and our tantrums are easily ended with distraction. One thing to keep in mind is that they most likely feel worn out at the end of the day like you do and impulse control goes out the window. Hunger does the same thing. Holding him, while he may fight it, probably isn't punishment. They say that walking away when you can is the way to take away something they want. Also, he will sense your anxiety and feel anxious himself, which will likely make it worse. Not sure if any of that was helpful...
ReplyDeleteThe distraction thing is our best choice right now too. I just worried I should be doing something more than that.
DeleteYou're so right on the exhaustion thing. Thanks!
katie,
ReplyDeleteWe have been doing time out for 2months. She completely gets it. She has never gotten up before the timer (1min) goes off. We then go to her and she will sign sorry. We do a hug and kiss and off she goes. I too read about walking away when they throw the tantrum. But that doesn't work when your eating out. Lauren is doing an awful screaming and arms flailing about when she doesn't get her way. I think at this age, they are starting to test the control that they have. Totally normal but exhausting and quite embarrassing at certain times!!!
How exactly do you do the time out? At the point she starts throwing a fit, what do you do? Where is timeout?
DeleteI'm not a mom so I don't have any words of wisdom to offer. The rag wreath looks great! I actually haven't seen one of these until now but I like it.
ReplyDeleteThe wreath was fun and easy. If I can make it to michaels I have another one to work one. We'll see. :)
DeleteMy mom has worked with children for her entire career and has her Master's in Counseling. She told me that "time out" is fine but to do the duration in accordance to their age ... one minute for each year (So since E is one ... just one minute). She would tell me once what the consequence would be if I didn't start behaving and then if I continued to do it she enforced it. We would often leave stores/restaurants until I learned that good behavior was the way to go! Those tips are the ones I plan on using when Em is old enough!
ReplyDeleteIt was GREAT meeting you! We will do it again soon :)