Monday, June 4, 2012

It's Not Ok

I'm not exactly sure where to even start with this.  Why don't I start by saying, there isn't much that can upset me or make me mad.  I can usually let a lot of things roll of my back but what happened tonight is still making me unbelievably mad and sad at the same time.  I'm going to try not to make this about me because I'm not the only victim in this story...

I worked a long day today and all I could think about was getting a great workout in.  I was sooo looking forward to conquering the Nike Training Club 45 min workouts. So when I finally did get off work, S, E and I packed up and headed to the gym.  When we got there S (the hubs) went off to workout and I went to drop E off at the nursery.  What I found when I opened the door alarmed me and quite frankly pissed me off. 

There on the lap of the girl who monitors the nursery was a kid about E's age (1-2) wearing gloves with a very obvious infected eye.  What do you think it was?!  All I could think was pink eye.  Why in the world would the kid be wearing gloves? Oh yeah, and he was rubbing his eye profusely.  I sat there for a minute, holding E still, asking the girl who watches the kids, what his story was.  She didn't know and just said her dad had dropped him off a few minutes earlier.  So I made the executive decision to skip my highly anticipated workout and leave. Oh and by the way, I tried to take E for a run when we got home and had to stop after 1 mile because he got stung by something.  Yeah, one of those days but I digress.  I wasn't about to let E run around there with that kid.  What's worse is you could tell the kid was uncomfortable.  I felt terrible for him.  So I'm writing that parent a letter and if you've ever done this, you might want to read it too:

Dear Parents:

Let me first remind you that above all else, we are parents.  We are moms and dads of children who count on us to do what's in their best interest even if that means we sacrifice. 

I get it, believe me I get it. I'd like to think I'm as dedicated of a fitness enthusiast as the next but I also know where my priorities are and my family ALWAYS comes first.  I know it's not fair, it's not fun but when you have a child that obviously needs to be home, in bed, that's what you do.  What you don't do is take him to a public place where he feels uncomfortable and can put other children at risk.  That is extremely selfish and insensitive of you.  It saddens me to think about that child. 

Please know that it is ok to miss a workout, a run or whatever else it is.  If you need to know it's ok, consider me granting you permission to skip. As a mother of a child who has been to the ER 5 times in the 19 months he has been alive, I know it's possible to take a little time off and still get back into a rhythm.  You're dedicated, you'll bounce back when the time is right but take care of your family first. 

Hopefully this has made you think, given you a little gut check even.  Get your priorities straight. There is life outside our fitness regimes and you need to get with the program.

Sincerely,
Me

29 comments:

  1. well said. i agree...kids first.

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  2. You made the right choice! Ugh. It's so sad that parents will put other children at risk like that. Thank you for sharing.

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    1. I know! I felt terrible for the kid. Still do. :(

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  3. Wow. Who would drop their highly infectious child off at the gum nursery. Not only should that little girl have been spending her sick time comfy at home, but that parent should have enough sense than to bring her to a place where she could infect other children. So selfish! I agree with you completely. No matter how bad I am itching for a run, if my little man needs me, I stay home. No excuses!

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    1. I'm glad we all agree that this is and should NEVER be the norm.

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  4. Poor little one. I agree we may LOVE training but we ARE parents and that should trump everything without question!

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    1. Thanks! My role as a mom will always be the most important job I have.

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  5. Wow. That's pretty incredible, especially if it's something as contagious as pink eye. Very well said.

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    1. Thanks! Hopefully the kid is getting treatment.

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  6. I am sorry the club kids' club people were unable to stop the parent at the start and send the child home before the parent took off. KymberlyFunFit

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    1. I know! I feel like I need to tell the gym owner. I think that entire nursery needs to be sterilized.

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  7. Oh my! You did the right thing and that father definitely did the wrong thing. It's not okay to let his own son suffer and to allow the infection to spread to other kids/people.

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  8. That's crazy, hey should nt have allowed that kid into the nursery plus he father should have known better. You I'd the right thing.

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    1. The girl who watches the kids is just a high school girl. I should've stood up for her and done more.

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  9. Yeah, not ok at all. The parents shouldn't have brought him and the nursery shouldn't have accepted him. I'd be angry too!

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  10. Utter disgust! For both the parent and the nursery. I'm crazy enough that I would have tracked him down! Glad you left.

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    1. Yeah. Seriously terrible. I wish I would've.

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  11. I would be SO mad too! I think the blame falls both on the irresponsible parent but also on the child care facility. They should have a policy in place that prohibits sick kids from being dropped off there ... AND they need to enforce it. I would totally go to management about this ... no day care facility would accept a kid with pink eye.

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    1. I agree. I should've done more but I was just in shock and just wanted to go home.

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  12. Though I would be really upset, too, I blame the facility equally. They should have never allowed the child to stay and I'd talk to them about my concerns before approaching the parent. Parents can be irresponsible, but in this situation, the facility should have nipped it in the bud.
    How frustrating for you!

    Brittany www.ahealthysliceoflife.com

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  13. Oh man :( I'm sorry about this! Glad you are writing a letter.

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  14. Definitely a good call on your part. Ugh. I totally love your blog. I was really just dropping by today to let you know that I've nominated you for the Leibster Blog award! http://www.drmomsie.com/2012/06/i-won.html
    I really wanted to take the opportunity to showcase some of my favorite newer blogs.:) Plus, I still want you to guest post on my blog sometime!!! Don't feel too much pressure :)

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    1. Thank you! I just left you a comment. Let's email. Maybe we do a QA between us to help share tips for motivating.

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  15. I agree its crappy parenting but it should also be on the gym to have a policy to refuse to take kids with contagious illnesses and they should not have put you in that position either so if it were me, I'd be writing another letter to the management of the gym too!

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  16. Wow and eeew gross. We have clients who come in with pink eye and we're like "umm no access without a DR's note confirming you've been on antibiotics" that would have totally soiled my day too.

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  17. I have worked with a lot of children in schools and summer camps, and this bothers me too. Sending your kids anywhere when they're sick only puts teachers and other students at risk. They'll be whiny and miserable all day long, so it makes things much more difficult than they should be, as the kids should be at home, with their parents, getting rest.

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